Saturday, September 24, 2005

Just this past week, sweet Sarah, my daughter, shared the words to a song with me, by the group, Nickel Creek...whose songs she sings very well (I must say) and are among the ones I really enjoy hearing her perform. :)) As I write today, I realize these very words seem in line with the theme I've begun, so I will share them also. As a 'bittergirl' (ha!), I do have this wish for the one who helped me qualify as a member of this club! The song title is "Somebody More Like You." The words are:

"i didn't hear you say you're sorry
the fault must be mine
i wish you all the best of luck at
finding somebody more like you

you said you'd love me always truly
i must have changed
'cause you don't need me like you used to
i hope you find somebody more like you

i hope you finally find someone someone that you trust
and give him (her) everything
i hope you meet someone your height so you can see eye to eye
with someone as small as you

you came out of nowhere and made me smile then tore me in two
saying we're very different people so dear
i hope you find somebody more like you
i hope you find somebody more like you"

(music & lyrics by Sean Watkins)

True to the 'bittergirl' way...I will "throw my own (very short) pity party...get over it, and move on with style." In accordance with said 'style', hopefully, I can "tell 'my' story with humor...without regret."
In fact, I believe enough has been said....I'm sure you get the picture by now....and if I feel weary of it, I'm certain that by now, you do too! UGH!!
Moving right along......
I'm finding a theme here, but I'm not certain I like it. Regardless, it's where I am in life...so I may as well flow with it!

My friend, Peggi, recently shared a book title with me, 'Bittergirl', and in the intro is "The Bittergirl Manifesto" (which I will share, because, unfortunately, this IS where I am in my own life):

"Everyone has their story.
Some have many stories.
But there's always one:
The one we coin the breakup of all breakups.
And everyone thinks theirs is the most painful.
"Nobody hurt like I did," we say.
We thrive on it, we bond through it.
And if someone steals our glory, if someone's story surpasses
the pain and hurt of our tale, we dismiss it.
Don't dismiss it.
We've all earned our scars.
Remember, when all hope is lost, when you feel there's no
tomorrow,
You're walking in darkness and drowning in sorrow,
Remember,
Yesterday's heartache is tomorrow's one-liner.
We laugh and move on.
It's what we do. It's how we get through.
We've got our stories. What's yours?"

The book proclaims there is "empowerment from misery" if "you embrace the bitterness." Accordingly, "bittergirls are bettergirls". Ha! It is dedicated to "......happily ever after....without you!" Haha!!

After such an ending....is where I begin......
"I wonder if we might pledge ourselves to remember what life is really all about--not to be afraid that we're less flashy than the next, not to worry that our influence is not that of a tornado, but rather that of a grain of sand in an oyster! Do we have that kind of patience?" (FR)

Probably not!! I'm finding it difficult to be unafraid...I don't even know where to begin....so I just keep borrowing lines, as if this will give me incentive to open up and bare my own soul....I just want to put something on the page...'break the ice' if you will...it's not working very well!!